"Discovering that his love is returned should actually disillusion a lover about his beloved. 'What's this? This person is unassuming enough to love even you? Or stupid enough? Or -- or --'" (63).
This quote depresses me and seems rather true all at the same time, a reaction I'm finding occurs quite often while reading this book. Its heart breaking to think that if its always true, then no one will ever really be in love with their love equally returned, unless of course both of the people are so self involved it doesn't apply to them. This quote wouldn't apply to someone self centered because they wouldn't be shocked to discover the person they loves loves them back, more they would almost expect it, take it for granted. So, if we are to believe this quote to be true, (not saying that I do, as I don't entirely, it just seems to make a certain sense), either you can never have a real relationship with someone you love and loves you back, or you're far too in love with yourself. Personally, neither of those sound very appealing.
"Ultimately, it is the desire, not the desired, that we love" (72).
I also find truth in this quote. It can apply to anything that we want or desire. Its the basic argument that you always want something until you actually have it. We are more in love with the wanting aspect of it, and that consumes most of our emotions, that the actual object or person doesn't particularly matter, more the fact that it is indeed desirable is what has any affect. The wanting and leading up to an event or something else is more exciting and stimulating than the thing itself, in may cases.
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